Everybody Is Just Like You

Every human being, in their flesh, is imperfect. We can’t change that. A copper pipe can never be anything but a copper pipe. We can never be anything but flawed.

But we can be changed. We can be changed the same way a copper pipe can be changed. A copper pipe can heat up when hot water flows through it. A human being can be changed by Jesus when He flows through us. If you want to change, you can be changed. All you need is Jesus.

Jesus was God Incarnate. He was the whole thing. He was the copper pipe and the hot water. In fact, He was instant heat, a hot water pipe that’s hot all the time. Jesus was always perfect.

He knew that if we could accept Him for who He is, and let the Spirit of God run through us, then we would change. That’s why He said, “I am what you need me to be. I am God, I am everything, I am the great I Am.”

That’s why sinners followed Jesus. He hung out with them. He loved them! He loved them because He saw them as sinners. He knew they were people of flesh and blood, imperfect and flawed. He knew they had nothing going for them. But He didn’t say, “You’re a bad person to be around because you’re angry.” He didn’t say, “I’m not staying here with you. I heard you use a cuss word.” He didn’t say, “Shame on you for being jealous! I’ll never hang around with you.”

No. He never says any of those things. Jesus looks at a sinner and says, “I created this person standing in front of me. I know her issues. I know his struggles.” He looks at us, and He loves us.

As the church, we have to try a lot harder to love like Jesus. We have to get to the point where we can look at outsiders, outside the faith looking in, and love on them. We have to stop looking at them in judgment. We have to stop saying to them, “Well, you don’t go to church, so you must not be a Christian.” We have to stop saying, “You don’t believe in Jesus, so you’re not as good as me.”

Just remember this simple fact: you are the same as everybody else, flawed and imperfect. We are all sinners. Nobody is exempt. The only thing that can make us different is Jesus.

When you look at people, remind yourself of this. This is reality. If you didn’t have Jesus, then you would be exactly like them. In fact, you are exactly like them. You still make the same mistakes they make. You have the same struggles as everyone else. There’s only one difference, and it’s Jesus. You don’t get the credit! You simply know that in Christ, you can be changed.

So the next time you feel like judging somebody, remember that they are just like you. Let Jesus run through you, and love on them instead.

If we can remember that, then we can love people like Jesus loves them. We can do it because we’ve let Him in.

See you Saturday.

Calming the Storm of Anger

It’s not my goal to judge people. I’m a person too, which makes me just like everyone else. How can I judge?

Let’s take anger as an example, because there’s plenty of that going around. When I see anger in someone, I don’t say, “Hey man, you’ve got a serious anger issue. You need to clean that up.” I don’t even want to think that way.

Why not? Because I get angry too! What if I had a serious anger issue? A lot of people do. Suppose I had never asked God into my life. Without God, I could also be a very angry person. In fact, I’ve been there! I’ve been a very angry person!

Think of those times when you come home from work and you’re irritable. In your irritability, you speak sharply to your husband or wife, or you’re mean to your kids. Your spouse and your kids are thinking, “Why is she so angry? Why is he being mean? Mom/Dad is always so angry. I don’t understand!”

Well, everybody’s angry sometimes. Everybody experiences irritability after a day at work or home. That’s why we don’t judge each other for having anger issues.

In our flesh, every single person has a capacity for sin. Everyone thinks, feels, or does things that expose our imperfections. The Bible  teaches us to look past judgment and discover the value of choosing to let the Spirit of God into our lives.

Try this. Go back to those times that you came home from work and you were irritable. You didn’t want to take your anger out on your family, but you had to go in the house. You probably didn’t even want it to happen, but they saw your anger.

What can you do differently this time? Pray! Tell God that you’re irritable. Tell Him, “God, I know I’m angry, so I need you. You’re my peace. You’re my understanding. You calm storms! I would like to be filled with your Spirit right now.”

This is the answer! Turn to the Spirit. Turn to Him and let Him flow into your soul. Say, “God, I need the peace that only you can give me.”

Once you start doing that regularly, it will become easier and more natural for you to do it. Then you’ll start doing it quicker. You’ll start believing it sooner. And when you start believing it, it happens. Your irritability will leave you, and you’ll become peaceful. You won’t enter the house with anger, you’ll enter with peace. Now your family sees you and knows you as a happy, joyful person, all because you chose to ask the Spirit in.

There are so many people out there who do not choose to invite the Spirit in. But now, you don’t judge them. You don’t look at anybody having the exact same struggles as yours and say, “Why are you always like that?”

No, you don’t do that anymore. You don’t need to ask, because you know. They are you!

The only difference is that you choose – hopefully – to live by the Spirit of God.

See you Wednesday.

Looking With New Eyes

The initial intention for Eden was complete beauty and peace. We would live in harmony and love for one another. We would look out for each other and want to help each other.

But what we live in right now isn’t paradise. We live in a judgmental society. When sin came into the world, judgment flooded right in with it. We saw it with Adam and Eve. She told me to do it. I’m sure there was an argument right outside the garden, as soon as they were kicked out. And then we saw it with Cain and Abel. One judged the other for being more loved by God, and killed him.

Judgment entered the world when sin entered the world, and that’s why Jesus says, Hey. Don’t judge people. You have no idea what’s going on in their lives. Besides, you are one choice and one decision away from being just as bad as you think they are.

Jesus says, “Don’t judge,” but we do it a lot. We look at our spouses, and we say, “When are they ever going to change?” Or you look at your mom and dad, and you throw your hands in the air, saying, “They’re never going to change. They’ve always done this, my entire life.” Or you look at friends, employees, or co-workers, and you find yourself saying, “Man! This guy just doesn’t get it. Isn’t he ever going to change? It just seems like he’s constantly doing the same thing, over and over again.”

When will that other guy change? You need to realize that you will never change, unless you access Jesus.

When people access Jesus, they start to change. When they accept who the Creator is, then they understand what He stands for, which is everything good. The Bible says nothing from heaven is evil. Everything that comes from heaven is good. So if you have Jesus in you, then you will change, because you will have goodness in you.

As a living human made of flesh and bone, you will not change. You’re just like a pipe in the kitchen plumbing, and once a pipe, always a pipe.

But you’re a hot water pipe, and Jesus is like hot water. Let Jesus flow through you, and He will change you. You’ll heat up! You’ll still be a man or a woman, but you’ll be a new creation in Him. (2 Cor. 5:17)

This word picture of the copper pipe is amazing to me. It has helped me look at people in a different, non-judgmental way. Maybe I think I don’t like someone, or maybe I feel like I don’t like their attitude. Or maybe I get around people who seem like they’re always negative and it irritates me. But the reality of it is that every single day I’m one decision away from being the person I’m judging.

And so I look at everything with new eyes. I look at my coworkers and friends, I look at my wife and children, and I look at all the people around me, and it’s so much easier now to love them without judging them. I do my best to not judge them, because I’m exactly like them!

We’re all copper pipes. We’ll never change. But I choose to turn on the hot water. That choice is really powerful, because it lets Jesus run through me. Jesus allows me to react positively, even to people who are different than I am.

I will tell you more about that next time. See you Saturday.

Warmed by the Water of the Lord

Once I met a guy with a word picture that gave me quite a workout. He put a copper pipe in front of me and then asked, “What is this?”

I said, “It’s a copper pipe.”

And he said, “Yes, it’s a copper pipe, but what is it?”

I said, “Well, you have a faucet on the end of it and you have a red handle. I’m going to say that it’s a hot water pipe.”

“That’s right,” he said. “It’s a hot water pipe.”

Then he asked me, “Does it ever change?”

That was puzzling! I tried to figure out what could possibly be the right answer to that. I asked, “Do you mean, does it ever change from being a copper pipe?”

And he said, “Yes, that’s what I’m asking. Will it ever become something other than a copper pipe?”

And I said, “No.” And he said, “Right.” And I said, “Okay.”

But then he asked me, “If it does change, when does it change?” And I said, “You just finished telling me that it will never change!”

“Right,” he said. “It will never change from being a copper pipe. But it changes as a copper pipe. Think about it. What kind of pipe is it again?”

“It’s a hot water pipe!”

“Right,” he said. “So when I turn the hot water on, then what does it become?”

“Well,” I said, realization dawning, “it becomes a hot hot water pipe.”

And he said, “Right. So, did it change?”

And I said, “Yes. It got hot.”

“Right,” he said.

Then he said, “This copper pipe is you. You will never change. You will always lust, you will always be greedy, you will always covet, you will always gossip, you will always betray, you will always be mean, you will always have evil thoughts…” And on he went, naming all my sins.

And then he said, “If God allowed you to change, then you would stop leaning on Him. If He allowed you to become perfect like Jesus was, then you would essentially be Jesus. If that happened, there would be no reason for Him.”

I wondered at this. I understood, but I also didn’t want to be stuck on some treadmill of sin. And right then he asked me, “When did God change you?”

I considered this one carefully. The pipe gets hot when the hot water flows through it, right? So I tried to think of a similar way that I might have been changed. I said, “Well, the Bible says I’m a new creature in Christ Jesus. I’ve been born again, so obviously I’ve changed.” And he said, “Yes. But the key is that it’s in Christ that you have changed.”

“Right,” I said.

“This is the meaning of the word picture,” he said. “Christ is your hot water. You are a copper pipe, and when you turn the hot water on, you change. You become who you’re supposed to be, which is righteous before God. Your righteousness is in Christ.”

We went on to talk about this some more. This is one of the best word pictures I’ve ever been given. It might be the best. It gave me a way to really, truly understand how Jesus can change us.

And therefore, that only Jesus can judge us.

I’ll tell you more about this next time. See you Wednesday.

Taking a Stand for Righteousness

The Holy Spirit sees everything, because He is with you all the time. He’s the voice inside of you, that intuition cautioning you when you’re contemplating a poor decision. He looks at you and says, “Man, I know what you’re doing, and here’s why I don’t think you should.”

What if you could get this from the people in your life? What if you could expose some of your sins and some of your issues, and the community would come around you and say, “Man, we’ve got you. And we’re going to walk with you through this. We’re going to give you advice and help. We’re going to give you a plan, because we’ve got some ideas for you. Here’s how you can refrain from making the wrong choice. The path you’re considering is not a good idea, and here’s why.” You could be reminded without being condemned.

That’s what a unified church does!

And I think this is what Jesus is waiting for. He’s waiting for people to mature, and be like-minded.

This is what He prayed for. He prayed that we would be like-minded because that’s the only way. If we’re always against each other, then how are we going to be for each other? God is for you, so He wouldn’t be against you. We need to be just like that. For each other.

In fact, if we’re going to be the community of people that represents God, we have to be for all kinds of righteous things. We have to be for each other. We have to be for a value-driven life. We have to be for forgiveness. We have to be for helping people become nearer to Christ.

This a key issue right now for a church that is not unified. We’re against more things than we’re for! But we can’t be the ones against righteousness! We have to get to a point where we are for all kinds of things. We’ve got to be for human life. We’ve got to be for the heart. We’ve got to be for understanding what it means to live in the grace of God.

Not against. Not against someone’s sin. Not against their theology. Not against their denomination.

We’re getting it backwards here. We’re control freaks by nature, so we’re trying to control people by getting them to believe exactly what we believe. This can’t be us, not any more. This can’t be the focus of the Christian. It’s time to change our focus, and be for each other. Let’s be for others and for understanding who they are in Christ.

More on this next time. See you Monday.

Marriage Full of Grace

Christian legalism focuses on the box. Christian legalism emphasizes no. It says, “You’re not allowed to do that. You’re not allowed to do this.” And that causes problems!

It causes problems in a lot of marriages. I’ve been there, but I no longer try to control my wife or my children. If you try to control your wife, then things will get bad for your family. I’ve seen men, including myself, say to their wives, “You know what, as long as you live the way I say to live, then everything’s okay. But if you don’t, then I’m going to get angry, and basically, you’re not going to like it when I’m angry.” And when men start controlling, it gets really bad. Then you’ve got your family living at the address of misery. Continue reading