Breaking Free of Fear and Shame

Are you doing good works so that God will smile on you?

How’s that working out for you?

When I meet people motivated by a works mentality and ask them how it’s going, they invariably say, ”Ugh. I’m exhausted.” Yes, you are. The works mentality will exhaust you. It will burn you out.

You will never be able to do enough to feel like you’re righteous!

Bottom line: a works mentality doesn’t work.

Don’t weary yourself this way. Jesus died so that we would be made holy and righteous. That was His sacrifice for you. Let Him in.

The Bible says that the power of the cross is meaningless to those who don’t understand. So let’s understand. Why did Jesus sacrifice Himself?

He did it so that you, in your human flesh, wouldn’t have to make yourself righteous. He did it so you wouldn’t have to perform this impossible task. That was the concept. Jesus earned your place in heaven. He did it for you! He knew you could never do it for yourself. Jesus, the only man that walked the Earth with perfect thoughts, did it for you.

Now you never have to say, “God, look what I did to receive the Kingdom of Heaven.” You don’t have to work to exhaustion, failing yourself every day, being ashamed of who you are.

I know it’s hard to come to grips with that, but when you do, you are transformed. Man, Jesus! You did that! You did that to eliminate sin from our lives! Now we don’t have to be afraid of God!

And if that wasn’t enough, you resurrected! You conquered death. Now we don’t have to fear that either!

Jesus, thank you. You brought me into the Kingdom, to dine with the King. Every day there is a wedding feast because of all the new people coming in, and I get to go. Every day! I’m allowed at the banquet table no matter what I’ve done, because Jesus has stood in for me, and by His death, made me holy and righteous. The blood of Jesus has been poured over me. I confess that. Now God doesn’t see my sins. He doesn’t see my sins! He sees me! And He loves me. We are all precious in His sight.

Jesus broke your bonds of sin and shame, fear and failure. Now you are welcomed and loved for who you are: His beloved and precious child.

That’s freedom!

See you Tuesday.

Children Loved in Grace and Freedom

In a life filled with grace, you receive such joy and fulfillment from loving your neighbor and doing the right thing that the law becomes unnecessary. You want to love, so that’s what you do. You love. You want to give, so that’s what you do. You give. You don’t need a set of rules to tell you to do it. It’s your lifestyle!

There are ways to teach our children about this. How often do we meet resistance when we say, “Clean your room!” When I tell one of my sons that he has to do something, the resistance can at times be incredible. There might be yelling, and jumping and stomping of feet. Doors might be slammed.

But what if I can look at him and say, “Hey bud, you know what? It’s your call.” What if I take my own son’s freedom into account? When I do, it is amazing. No one gets angry! I don’t yell at him and he doesn’t yell at me. If you can allow your children to make their own decisions, then you may not meet quite so much resistance.

I have learned to talk with my son, instead of making demands. I tell him, “You need to clean your room, because Mama has asked you to clean your room. I’m just letting you know that you can make your own call here. There are two roads you can take, and you’re the one who has to choose. If you take the wrong road, there will be consequences, but we’ll deal with them together. I’m going to help you, and I’m still going to love you. So it’s your call.”

So when it comes to doing his chores, my son knows it’s his choice. And I also tell him, “You can be angry. It’s okay to be angry. I’m not going to force you to clean your room. We’re living in grace here. I’m not going to tell you what you have to do. I’m going to help you understand what you should do. And then after that, it’s your call. If you make the wrong choice, we’ll handle it as we need to, in love. It’s up to you.” And then I just look at him, and he looks at me, and then he says, “Okay, I’ll clean my room.” And he does. He cleans his room and we go on with our day.

I’ve had to learn that my way of making decisions is not necessarily my son’s way of making decisions. My boys don’t have the same personality as mine. God has given each of them their own personalities. It’s tough to learn the personalities of your children and live in grace. It’s a challenge, but when we can do it, there’s freedom. There’s freedom in being able to allow our children to work in grace. There’s freedom in saying, “Hey, look, this is going to be better for you if you choose to do it, but it is your choice.”

I think God teaches us the same way. We have the freedom to choose between right and wrong, and when we choose wrong, there are consequences. But there is no condemnation. We’re living in grace here. God has brought us into His family, and He will help us deal with the consequences, in love. I’m going to love my son just as much if he doesn’t clean his room, even though my wife and I will discipline him. I will never love my son less. How much more does God love us?

More yet to come on grace.  See you Monday.

The Gospel Truth

From noon to three, the whole earth was dark. Around midafternoon Jesus groaned out of the depths, crying loudly, “Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?” which means, “My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?”

Some bystanders who heard him said, “He’s calling for Elijah.” One of them ran and got a sponge soaked in sour wine and lifted it on a stick so he could drink. The others joked, “Don’t be in such a hurry. Let’s see if Elijah comes and saves him.”

But Jesus, again crying out loudly, breathed his last.

At that moment, the Temple curtain was ripped in two, top to bottom. There was an earthquake, and rocks were split in pieces. What’s more, tombs were opened up, and many bodies of believers asleep in their graves were raised. (After Jesus’ resurrection, they left the tombs, entered the holy city, and appeared to many.)

The captain of the guard and those with him, when they saw the earthquake and everything else that was happening, were scared to death. They said, “This has to be the Son of God!” Matthew 27:45-54

We all make mistakes. We’re only human! But we’re also forgiven. When we mess up, we don’t have to live in guilt. Jesus is right there. He lives in us, and He walks through the mess with us.

I know we forget that. We keep expecting ourselves to be perfect, and we keep trying to perfect ourselves for God. I can almost see God shaking His head. He’s saying, “These guys! They actually think they’re going to get rid of sin so that I’ll be close to them! Don’t they know? By the time they get rid of one sin, they’ve already sinned again, in some other way! Curing their own sin is going to be literally impossible for them!”

There’s no way that God would expect us to perfect ourselves. It doesn’t make sense that He would, because it can’t be done! But there’s another reason why He doesn’t expect it. It renders the power of the cross obsolete.

Think about that Temple curtain. The only way that anyone could enter the Holy of Holies was if they had no sin. What if the priest had a bad thought before he walked into that tent? Talk about fear! That’s fear.

We don’t live under fear anymore. We don’t. Jesus took away our reason for fear when He died and the Temple curtain was ripped in two. The very thing that required perfection was split in half, and Jesus said, “That’s over. You walk freely now.”

Now there is no shame. Jesus took it, man! He took your shame! Think about it. If I’m Jesus, and I’m getting mocked, I’m not putting up with it. I’m getting off that cross so that I can scare the hell out of everybody.

But Jesus put up with it. He did it for you! He knew He could get off that cross, but He said no. He hung there instead, and He took all the shame. They spit on Him. They mocked Him. They beat Him. They laughed at Him. And the whole time He said, “I’m taking all this on me. Because 2,000 years from now, I’m going to live in you. I’m going to be right there with you when you start to wonder what you’re doing in life, and if you add up. I’m dying on this cross to let you know that you do. You add up. You’ve done nothing on your own to prove it. Nothing. I’ve done it all. I’m the point system for you now, and it’s all good. You are free!”

That’s the Good News. And that’s truth. That’s truth!

See you Monday.

Called into Freedom

Have you said yes to Jesus? Then you’ve answered your ultimate calling. Now you are a child of God! So live out of who God says you are. Be holy and righteous. And then watch how much more fulfilled you are.

Sometimes we don’t understand how to respond to God’s grace. Sometimes we get into the habit of performing. We do good works and good deeds, and we show the world a cheerful face no matter how scared or helpless we feel inside. We do it hoping that our performance will make us appear good in the eyes of God. But you don’t have to perform. God already said you’re good. He’s already said it!

That’s freedom, man! That’s our freedom! We’re free now because we don’t have to add up. We don’t have to do everything right. We can just be. Every day, we can just be. You can just be a child of the King, who’s in love with you. You can just be a child of the King, who says you’re holy and righteous. You can do absolutely nothing today, and He will still be pleased with you.

Live in that freedom, because that’s grace! Just live in it! Don’t try to save yourself. You can’t replicate grace. Neither can I. I’m not God, so I can’t think like God. (And thank God for that, right? Or we’d all be in trouble!) Just relax and live in your freedom, and rejoice!

God says you’re good! God says you’re holy and righteous! It’s incredible! You mean I can mess up and still be good? I don’t have to worry? I don’t have to carry guilt, or be ashamed of who I am or the mistakes I make? No! I don’t!

And I don’t have to worry about taking this freedom for granted and turning my heart to sin. Holy and righteous people know when they have made mistakes. We know when we’ve done something wrong. The Spirit tells us. “Probably not the best thing you should be doing.” Alright! Good thing I’m forgiven. I can choose not to do it next time, and I don’t have to live in guilt.

Jesus is there saying, “Yeah, alright. I saw what you did. We’re going to have to walk through it now. That’s fine. It’s why I’m here! I would have preferred you made a different choice, sure. It would have been a lot more freeing for us. But you didn’t, so now we walk through it.”

When a holy and righteous child of God makes mistakes, he doesn’t have to earn his way back into God’s grace. You don’t lose out. You’re not rejected from God’s family because He’s not happy with you anymore. You’ll ask Him, ”Are you disappointed in me, God? Are you mad at me?” That’s natural. But He will answer you and He will say, “No, I’m not angry. I’m not disappointed. You’re human. You won’t be perfect until I come back and you no longer live in your flesh. Until that time comes, you are going to sin. And I’m going to be right here with you. I love you!”

Paul, Peter, John, Andrew, and so many other guys were crucified for spreading this message. Why? Because it’s freedom! They went around telling everyone about freedom! They told everyone what Jesus did, and they said, “This is it. You have to know about it! Anybody who tells you something else is trying to control you. They’re trying to keep you from understanding what real freedom is. Grace is real freedom! And what a gift. I can’t believe this just got given to me!”

That’s why we rejoice in God’s grace. It’s freedom!

It’s not freedom to sin. It’s freedom to live! Now we live, not as sinners who are saved, but as saints who sin. From time to time, we will live in unrighteousness. That’s because of flesh. His grace is freedom to live righteously in that knowledge. Amen!

See you Thursday.

Trust In Your Children

As much as we might value our good intentions, they can get in the way of trust, and there is so much freedom in trust! Let me give you an example.

I have the best of intentions for my sons. I intend for them to grow up to be leaders. So I try to teach them to be leaders. Since I’m teaching them, I want them to listen to me. I want them to obey me all the time, and never talk back. I don’t want them to challenge me. I want them to answer me with honesty and respect.

But they are little boys, living in the fragile world of childhood. They don’t see my intentions and expectations in the same way that I do. They may want to express themselves in their own way, and become the people they were born to be. By putting my expectations on them, I don’t always allow them to be themselves. I can get in the way of them becoming who they are.

In my intention to train them for leadership, I try to put my sons in a box. It’s as if I give them a message that says, listen, if you stay in this box, you will be fine. Don’t leave the box.

That makes me feel good as a dad, because I feel like I have control. My family is doing what they should be doing. My kids look good to other people because they’re not acting out. These are the best of intentions, but it’s a recipe for frustration. As soon as one of them leaves that box, maybe because he wants to express who he is, I can get angry or frustrated. And of course I try to put him back in the box! But that causes my sons to live in bondage and not in the freedom to be who they are. That’s not leading, that’s dictatorship!

My good intention is for my sons to be leaders. But I don’t trust them to become leaders in who they are. And why shouldn’t I? They are wonderful people and can become good leaders. I don’t have to first make them be just like me. They have their own personalities and my job is train them to be leaders based on who they are, not who I am.

Not everyone is like you. That’s so obvious that we can fail to really understand it. We have to be able to trust other people for who they are, just as I have to be able to trust that my sons will be leaders in who they are. When I allow my boys to express themselves in their own way, I can actually give them freedom. I can love them and encourage them to be who they are, and who they’re going to become.

We have to be able to trust other people for who they are. But it doesn’t stop there! We also have to trust people with who we are. We need to be available, and transparent, and open. We have to be honest with each other and say, “This is who I am.”

Kingdom Identity

I’ve been blogging recently about the Kingdom identity of holiness and righteousness, because this is our freedom!

The New Testament has law. When you read it, you can see that the first Christians were dealing with a lot of rules and regulations. Don’t gossip, don’t commit murder, don’t tell lies, don’t think immoral thoughts. Sometimes it feels like the New Testament focuses as much on the do’s and don’ts as the Old Testament does, right?

People say, “Christians live by too many rules.” They’re wrong. We don’t live by too many rules. We don’t live by any rules! We live according to commandments, and there are two of those, which are actually just one: Love God our Father with all our heart, mind, soul, and strength, and love our neighbor as ourselves.

It doesn’t mean that we sin whenever we want. It means we don’t want to sin. It happens, of course. Have I lied? Yes! Did it feel good? No! Do I want to do it again? No!

I don’t steal. I don’t cheat on my wife. I don’t commit murder. Sometimes I have unhealthy thoughts. I don’t like it, but I do, and I will as long as there’s flesh on my bone. Where there is flesh, there is sin.

In Romans 7, Paul says, “There’s a battle waging inside me. Who can save me from this sin?” Jesus saves you. He’s the one inside of you that reminds you who you are. It is through Him that you are made holy and righteous. You will live out of your flesh at times, but that’s not your identity. Your identity is Kingdom identity.

This does not mean that I’m a sinner that’s saved. It means I am a saint that sins. That’s two different views, right? One theology teaches that you’re a sinner. It’s a theology that says, “I want to control that individual, so I’m going to tell him, You need me, because you’re going to sin and you need saving.” But that’s not what Jesus says. Jesus says you’re a saint that sins. He tells you, “You don’t need them. They need me! I make saints that mess up from time to time.”

Holy and righteous people aren’t idol-worshippers or back-stabbers or God-haters. We don’t want to gossip, murder, tell lies, steal, or have immoral thoughts. It doesn’t square with who we are. We are confident in our understanding of who we are in Christ. We can say, “Those aren’t do’s and don’ts. Those aren’t even commands from God. It’s not necessary to require moral behavior from me. I live morally because of who I am, not because I’m afraid God is going to be disappointed in me.”

Doing good is as natural to Kingdom people as an Inuit wearing furs to stay warm, or a Muslim woman wearing a scarf to cover her hair. Do we make mistakes? Yes. Do we battle with the desires of the flesh? Yes. But this isn’t what defines us.

And it’s certainly not motivated by fear. Kingdom people don’t do the right thing because they want God to like them, or because they fear His disappointment or His punishment. Kingdom people do the right thing simply because it’s obvious to us that goodness is good. It’s how we live, because it’s who we are.

See you Thursday.

Kingdom Freedom

So many people are taught that if you have grace, you’re going to sin more.

Even the people in ancient Rome were saying that grace gives Christians permission to sin. They were saying that Christians can do whatever they want to do, because grace frees them from any consequences. So when Paul wrote to the Romans, he talked about this. He said no, that’s not the case. In fact, it’s the exact opposite! Since Christians have God’s grace, they are holy and righteous. And if you understand that, if you understand who you are, then you won’t sin because you won’t want to. Not out of fear of being punished! You just literally won’t want to do it.

I am a new creature, man! I don’t want to sin! Sin contradicts my fundamental sense of who I am. This is what the people of the Kingdom of God are like!

Why are we like that? Look at Jesus. Jesus said, I do everything I see my Father do. I love my enemies. I see the woman accused of adultery and I love on her. I don’t judge her.

The people of the Kingdom of God want to do the things we see Jesus do. Not because we have to! We want to be like Jesus because we understand how good it is to be holy and righteous. We still sin, yes. We have flesh and it’s unavoidable. When it happens, He helps us deal with it. Sin is not who we are.

Now if you understand who you are, fear will go away. Holy and righteous people don’t fear punishment, because they don’t get punished. That’s not who God is. In the Kingdom, there is no punishment. That’s out. The cross is that powerful. I don’t care what you do, there’s no punishment.

There will be some earthly consequences for sin. Suppose you commit adultery. There will be consequences. But that does not mean God loves you less. It doesn’t! In fact, He’s probably going to grab you even closer, because He knows the turmoil you’ll suffer because of what you did. He knows the turmoil your family will suffer because of what you did. He knows, and He’s not going to run from you. He’ll say, “Oh, man, I’m not letting you go on this one. This is going to be a long walk. You’re going to need me, now more than ever.” That’s what He would do, not punish you.

What makes you think God judges you? Jesus did everything that He saw His Father do, no matter what. Think about the woman at the well. He went out of His way to sit with her. He knew that she was going to come to that well and He went to call her out. Not to condemn her. To free her. Because that’s what the Father does. 

Think about you, a child of His. He sees your crap. And He says, “I’m not here to condemn you. I’m here to free you. Come to the wedding feast. You don’t have to find the table. The table is here. Wherever you’re at, I’ll bring it to you and you will dine with me. We’re going to have fun! We’re going to love on each other and live our life in freedom. We’re going to learn that grace is being holy and righteous. Grace is allowing you to be you.”

That’s what God says, not, “You know what? I think you need to be someone else.” No! God made you, and you have His image.

Jesus frees us. He frees us from our wounds and our fears. Your freedom is being you. God made you already. He sees you already. And He’s not ashamed of you. Even in your crap He’s not ashamed of you. He just walks with you through it. “Yeah,” he says. “I’m here with you.”

The Good News is very, very good!

See you Monday.