Intimacy and Judgment

Jesus made the twelve disciples his intimates. He sat with them all the time. He would ask them questions. Once he asked them, “Who do people say that I am?” The disciples replied that people were saying Jesus was John the Baptist, or Elijah. Jesus said, “Okay. Who do you say I am?” And Peter said, “You are the Christ.” Then Jesus warned them to tell no one. Mark 8:27-30

You see, he built intimate relationships with the disciples. He talked to them, asked their opinions, and made them His confidants.

He went on talking to them, and the Bible tells us:

He began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things, and be rejected by the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again. He spoke this word openly. Then Peter took Him aside and began to rebuke Him. But when He had turned around and looked at His disciples, He rebuked Peter, saying, “Get behind Me, Satan! For you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men.” Mark 8:31-33

That’s amazing. Jesus looked at Peter, His dear friend, and said to him, “Get behind Me, Satan.” Continue reading

Marriage Full of Grace

Christian legalism focuses on the box. Christian legalism emphasizes no. It says, “You’re not allowed to do that. You’re not allowed to do this.” And that causes problems!

It causes problems in a lot of marriages. I’ve been there, but I no longer try to control my wife or my children. If you try to control your wife, then things will get bad for your family. I’ve seen men, including myself, say to their wives, “You know what, as long as you live the way I say to live, then everything’s okay. But if you don’t, then I’m going to get angry, and basically, you’re not going to like it when I’m angry.” And when men start controlling, it gets really bad. Then you’ve got your family living at the address of misery. Continue reading

Intimacy and Judgment

There are certain ways to talk to certain people because of the intimacy you have with them. Jesus made the twelve disciples his intimates. He sat with them all the time. He would ask them a question, like, “Who do people say that I am?” The disciples replied that people were saying Jesus was John the Baptist, or Elijah, or the prophets. And Jesus asked them, “Okay, and now who do you say I am?” Peter said, “You are the Christ.” And Jesus warned them to tell no one. Mark 8:27-30

He built intimate relationships with the disciples, talking to them, asking their opinions, making them His confidants.

He went on talking to them, and the Bible tells us: Continue reading

How To Be A Husband, Part 4

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My marriage vow is a covenant between me and my wife. And as I mentioned in closing last time, we have children now, beautiful children who are the fruit of that covenant.

Our covenant means that I’m sworn in to provide for this family however I need to provide for them. Whether my family needs emotional provision, or physical provision, or financial provision, I need to provide what they need. If they need a strong father at any given time, then I need to be strong. If they need a humble father or a humble husband, then I need to be humble. And if they need a dad or a husband that serves them, then at that time I need to be a servant.

And I think that’s how Jesus is. He is the great I Am. Continue reading

How To Be A Husband, Part 3

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In the past couple of weeks, I’ve been reflecting on marriage as contract versus marriage as commitment. I’ve written about how marriage is a serious commitment, a ruggedly serious commitment. You make it, and you’re in for life. It’s a done deal.

I’ve also written that you’re not supposed to live in misery. That is not why God calls you to marriage. But you’re not supposed to give up, either. You’re supposed to change. I think that’s what makes marriages work.

Cases of abuse aside (abuse is a very serious issue and needs to be considered differently), if you tell me you’re miserable in your marriage, that tells me you’re not changing. You’re being stubborn or proud. It’s like you’re saying to your wife, “Hey, I’m not going to change here. So if you won’t change, then we need to separate.” If you’re saying that, you don’t get submission at all. Continue reading

How To Be A Husband, Part 2

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Did Jesus sin? No.

Did He take our sin? Yes.

No matter what mistakes we make in life, Jesus says, “That’s okay. I died for that. I took the sins of all mankind.”

God turned His back because of all the sins of the world. And I’m talking about all the sins. I’m talking pedophiles, people that traffic human beings, murderers, rapists, cheaters, liars, God-haters, all of them. Jesus took all of this and said, “This is on me.” He says, “I died for them.” Continue reading

How To Be A Husband, Part 1

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Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her… (Eph. 5: 22-25)

Do I think that I’m the head of my family? Yes. That’s scripture. As Jesus is the head of the church, so is the man the head of his family, and the head of his home.

But I have someone to answer to. God says, “You answer to me.” When I stand before God, He will say, “I viewed you as the head of your family.”

This is a powerful message for a Christian man. How you treat your wife and how your treat your kids is very, very important. Continue reading

Let’s Talk Pre-Nup, Part 2

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Thanks for all the great comments on last Friday’s post. I commented, too, and the link is here if you want to read it. In criticizing pre-nups, I was not insisting that people stay in abusive marriages. I understand that the unforeseen can arise in a marriage. There might be appropriate times to separate or even divorce. For me, abuse is a different story.

I think that it’s a huge decision to make a vow before God. And if there’s a pre-nup involved, then there’s an automatic excuse to get out of it. You’re just saying you’ll give it a try and see how things go, but if it gets too hard, you can leave. And that’s not how you make a lifelong commitment. Continue reading