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The Virtues of Dialogue

If we want to unify the church, we don’t have to look further than Jesus. Jesus is our perfect model. He hung out with everybody: sinners and outcasts, disciples, even people with status.

Jesus hung out with the Pharisees! He had powerful disagreements with them, right? But He was okay with that. It didn’t keep Him from hanging out with them. “I’ll go to your house to have dinner,” He said. “I’ll challenge your reasoning and your beliefs.” He didn’t necessarily say nice things to them, but He had the dialogue. It’s not like He refused to talk to them.

Jesus debated everybody, fortunately. We wouldn’t even know His thoughts, if He had refused debate! He hung with people of all different persuasions, people who held all kinds of views different to His, and He found a way to dialogue with them. So He was our perfect model for engaging people and talking with them, whether we agree with them or not.

Just because Jesus talked with all different kinds of people, He did not give up moral ground. He wouldn’t do that. He would say, “No you’re wrong. And this is why.” And He would answer a question with another question, because He wanted people to think more deeply.

We’re not behaving much like Jesus right now! Right now we are in a situation where our leaders, and our leading thinkers, don’t even want to hang out with each other, much less debate! They’ll write each other off before the conversation can even begin. “Oh,” they’ll say, “So you’re from the Catholic Church.” Or they’ll say, “You’re from the Episcopal Church, you’re from the Presbyterian Church, you’re Southern Baptist.” So what? So talk! Talk to each other. Have a conversation. Dialogue.

I’ve found real wisdom in books written by leaders from denominations other than my own. And I love it. I don’t go to a Presbyterian Church, but for me, Timothy Keller is one of the brightest thinkers of our day right now. You should read The Reason for God and think about his views of God and the contemporary challenges to Christianity. Brennan Manning’s Ragamuffin Gospel is another very good book, and Manning is a Catholic priest.

We have to put aside the insistence that our denomination is the only one with the correct belief. We all begin with that belief, sure, but we can’t fear the changes that come from dialogue with other Christians. We shouldn’t be afraid to say, “My perspective is part of the right perspective, but it’s not the perspective.”

That’s really our issue. We can’t sit in dialogue, because we aren’t prepared to admit that our perspectives might only be partial. We always think that we have to have the perspective, and the other guy must be wrong. What if we all need to think together to have the perspective?

Don’t be afraid to dialogue and debate. Don’t be afraid to say, “Time out. That might not be the full perspective.” Don’t be afraid to add to your perspective. Be willing to change! I think it’s something that we’re going to have to be okay with. We have to. It’s the only way, if we’re going to unify the church!

See you Monday.

2 thoughts on “The Virtues of Dialogue

  1. Great post yet again! I love reading them! Thank u for sharing! Jesus talk to everyone rich or poor and he loved everyone but today the world we live in the lord says things must take place before he comes again… It’s sad that our leaders world wide can’t come together and talk even as humans we can’t do the same… 😳😫😕😔 but we have to try and follow Jesus footsteps and he humble like he was and is…

  2. Great thoughts. Just today I had my son at the gym daycare. I picked him up and asked the usual question. Did you have fun ? His sweet 4 year old voice answered, ” I asked a boy to be my friend. Guess what, he said ‘ok’ .” My little guy didn’t stop to wonder what his religion was or who he liked better-Giants or Dodgers. He didn’t ask his political party, he just wanted to hang out for 40 min., While mom burned off those cinnamon rolls she had to have last night. If only we could all be 4 year olds and just dialogue with people and enjoy the possibility of just talking and learning from them.

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