My marriage vow is a covenant between me and my wife. And as I mentioned in closing last time, we have children now, beautiful children who are the fruit of that covenant.
Our covenant means that I’m sworn in to provide for this family however I need to provide for them. Whether my family needs emotional provision, or physical provision, or financial provision, I need to provide what they need. If they need a strong father at any given time, then I need to be strong. If they need a humble father or a humble husband, then I need to be humble. And if they need a dad or a husband that serves them, then at that time I need to be a servant.
And I think that’s how Jesus is. He is the great I Am. He is what you need Him to be at the time. Do you need a strong father? You’ve got one. Do you need a servant? Jesus washed the disciples’ feet! He is the great I Am.
That’s essentially what husbands are trying to be for their families. We’re trying to be an I Am. I do my best show my family that I will try to be what they need me to be. I cannot do it like Jesus does it, which is why ultimately we need him. The fulfillment of my wife is not me, it’s Jesus. Solus Christus. The fulfillment that my children need through a father will be through Jesus, not me. Solus Christus.
I can only be the best that I can possibly be. I will never be what Christ is to them. I can’t be. I can’t do that.
But it is my job, based on scripture. My job is to be the reflection of what Christ is. I have to be the best, and I mean the best replication of Christ that I can possibly be. And the only way that I can possibly do that is in Christ. I can only do it because the Spirit gives me the wisdom to do it.
If you’re going to be a selfish, stubborn person, or you’re going to be prideful, and you don’t want to even try, then I’m telling you, you’ll never even come close. And I think that’s where families fall apart. I think that’s where dads have lost their way. I think that’s why they give up and leave their wives and children. They say, “I can’t live up to what I’m supposed to live up to.” And that’s why we have children now who make poor decisions. Their lives are utter chaos because of the lack of a father figure.
So next time, I’ll say a bit about how to be a father. See you Friday.