Did Jesus sin? No.
Did He take our sin? Yes.
No matter what mistakes we make in life, Jesus says, “That’s okay. I died for that. I took the sins of all mankind.”
God turned His back because of all the sins of the world. And I’m talking about all the sins. I’m talking pedophiles, people that traffic human beings, murderers, rapists, cheaters, liars, God-haters, all of them. Jesus took all of this and said, “This is on me.” He says, “I died for them.”
So I try to do what Jesus told us to do. “Love your wife like Christ loves the church.” When you act like the man in the marriage, you say, “I take full responsibility for everything. One hundred percent yes.”
If your wife betrays you, it’s your fault. Will she stand before God? Yes. Will she have to own up to what she did? Yes. But ultimately it’s your fault. If your wife is not happy in the marriage, it’s on you, not on her. That’s literally what it means to love her, the way Christ loves the church.
Now when you and your wife disagree, you go behind closed doors and discuss things. You have a conversation. You say things to each other like, “Why did you make that decision? We need to do a better job in our decision-making process.” But when people see you and your wife in public, it is on you. You take the blame for everything that goes down.
Sometimes my wife and I get into arguments. We’ll get into a big argument over something like finances or decisions that were made. We’ll get loud and it becomes a fight. And we say things.
I have found that the quickest way to heal my wife after an argument is to take full responsibility. I look at her and say, “You know what? This argument is my fault. I should have handled it differently. I should have said things way differently than what was said. I didn’t have to say these things. I didn’t handle this the right way. And it caused a fight.”
And there’s a submission process that comes into play really, really quickly, because then she says, “Thank you. And I trust you. You know how I feel about this, but you also know I’ll trust your decision on it.” She says that because I said, “This argument was my fault.”
That’s how I try to run things in our marriage. Do I do it well? No! But this is where Solus Christus comes into play. I have some thoughts I want to share on that. See you Friday.