That’s unfortunate. I think churches truly have gotten to this point. They need to check themselves and say, “No, no. That should never be the issue.”
When Jesus came, God said, “This is the image that I want you to portray.” And it is not an angry image, it is not a judgmental image, it is not a condemning image. When Jesus walked the streets He loved everybody. He hung out with the prostitutes and the drunks and the gluttons and the sinners. He was called a drunk and a glutton because He hung out with them. And when they brought prostitutes before Him and said, “What do we do?” He said, “Hey, that’s not your job. Your job is not to condemn anybody. Your job is to love and encourage and people to get better, right where they’re at.”
That’s the image of God, the one we’re supposed to reflect. It’s not anyone’s job to condemn our young people. Your job is not to say, “Hey look, you got drunk, you deserve everything that happens to you.” No, no. That’s not your job.
Your job is to ask why. Let’s get down to the actual root of why. Let’s ask, “Why did you get drunk and then drive? Why did you sleep with your boyfriend and get pregnant? What was the purpose of doing it?” And at the same time we need to love and encourage them, and ask, “What are we going to do from here? How are we going to handle life now?” We need to be with them. We need to offer our love, and say, “Let’s work through it together.”
The issue for the church is not, “How does this look?” We only have to do one thing. We have to say, “Okay, you know what? Your daughter is pregnant. Well, we love your daughter. We want to bless your daughter. We don’t want to cast judgment onto your daughter, we want to cast blessing onto your daughter. And we hope that your daughter’s child becomes a child that oozes the aroma of Christ. Sure it was a mistake to get pregnant, but Jesus forgave, we forgive, we’re going to help.”
Do you know how much better life would be if we actually got into the habit of saying, “You know what? Everyone sins, but we are not to condemn, we are to love through it.” I think you would find less and less people sinning out of rebellion, if they knew they were loved out of purity. I think that would change a lot of things.