The Pursuit of Happiness
What is happiness? Happiness is something I feel deep within me. Happiness is an internal soul feeling. You look around you, and something in your soul says, “This is good, and I’m peaceful. I’m just happy.” Or you find that you can look around at your life and feel peace. I feel happiness when I can just look at everything and say, “You know what? I don’t have any concerns right now. My kids are having fun, and I had a great date with my wife the other night.” I don’t know if I can explain it. Something in my soul just says, “I don’t know, I’m just so happy!” Happiness is an emotion, but it’s not an emotion I can really describe. It’s just a feeling of completion that you have.
Why is happiness such a struggle? I think it’s because life is not easy. From the time you’re born, it’s just not easy. Think about it. I’m watching my sons grow up, and even my 16 month-old struggles with happiness. When I start to put him to bed before he wants to go to bed, he throws an absolute fit. He lets me know, “Man, I am not happy. This isn’t what I want. This isn’t what I think is going to be fun.” And my 4 year-old goes through it too. If I don’t let him play a certain video game, he gets mad. There’s no happiness there.
Then you grow up, still looking for happiness. One thing you learn is that money is not going to buy you happiness. Pretty much everybody in the major leagues is a millionaire, or about to be one, and a lot of them are very unhappy people. They’re miserable, and they are complaining about it. They’re complaining about why something is the way it is, or why something else isn’t the way it could be. They’re miserable when another guy makes more money for doing the same thing they do. So money, I can tell you, is not going to bring you happiness.
Does it bring some fun? Yes. Does it bring security? Yes! It does! But you don’t sit at home with your paycheck and say, deep within your soul, “I feel complete.” Money does not create that feeling. It does not bring that feeling of contentment. You don’t sit there, at peace with yourself, and say, “Ah, I am so content. I am complete now, I have money.” Money actually creates more issues. Your bills get higher. Your responsibilities mount up on you and there’s more stress. All kinds of unexpected issues come into play. So if you’re really looking for happiness, becoming a millionaire is not going to work.
I think as human beings, we always want certain things, and when we don’t get them, we feel a lack. And then we get angry or frustrated. We’re not happy. We wanted life to go a certain way, or we wanted things to end up being a certain way. This is just being human! And I think that in our selfishness, it is impossible to be happy, really. We need that hot water.
Happiness is a feeling you experience in your soul. Happiness is about God. When you’re separated from God, there is a lack of joy. When you are not feeling connected in your communication with God, there is a lack of happiness. And every person is craving joy and happiness. I think that’s a part of being human too.
More on this Saturday. Meanwhile, are you happy? Leave me a comment and tell me what you think of happiness.